Friday, August 10, 2012

Another break for bereavement

You'll have to forgive me for being in more than a bit of shock about this, but I have to call another Hugs hiatus owing to the sudden loss of my mum last night. 

You never met such a generous, loving person in such a peaceful personality.  And what a sense of humour!  She's had some health problems the last few years as most people her age do, but they've never gotten her down - she could always make a joke about them.  She adapted to everything, all her life.

I'll have to learn from her example and adapt to going on without her.  I know it will be hard because I know she never stopped missing her own mum.  But I'm sure I will find a way.  It's just going to take a few days for me find my footing because even though I was sort of prepared... you're never prepared.  You know?

I probably just need a week.  I'll probably knit a lot.  There will probably be some good pictures when I get back.  Take care of yourselves while I'm gone, okay?  And make some nice stuff.

18 comments:

Pauline said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Even when you expect a loss, the pain is severe. Peace to you.

Mary Keenan said...

Thank you so much, Pauline... in spite of not even seeming real, it sure *does* hurt!

Bonny said...

Hugs and support to you. It never is easy especially when you think you're prepared. Take all the time you need. We'll be here when you return.

Marianne said...

My heart goes out to you. Take all the time you need, this blog will be here when you return, faithful followers (even those that don't comment often) will be here waiting when the time is right. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours, may angel wings surround you and help you find your way. {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}

justmeandtwo said...

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss! No, one can never be prepared to loose a Mom! Take all the time you need and know you've got cyber-friends praying for you and supporting you in your heartache!

Julie said...

I'm sorry for your loss, it sounds as though it was unexpected despite the health concerns. I don't know which is worse, knowing your parent's demise is coming or having it blindside you? I hope the funeral arrangements and family time goes smoothly.

Mary Keenan said...

SO unexpected, Julie - she was just about to sit down with me for a pre-birthday cupcake party and had a massive heart attack followed immediately by cardiac arrest. I knew her time was limited, but I sure didn't think it would be over in an instant and me not able to do a thing to help!

Thanks for all the support guys... it's been quite a day, and I have three more to go before the funeral process even begins, so I really appreciate it.

Ziggyknits said...

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my mom 5 years ago and not a day goes by that I don't think of her. But finally this year I am remembering the good times instead of the bad. Nurture yourself - this is very important now!
- Mary Sherwood

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. You bring so much joy and humor to so many through the love of our craft... I know I feel as though I know you! I'll be thinking of you... SP

Anonymous said...

it will take time and you are right --- your Mom can't be replaced. It has been more than 4 years and I still can't bear to take my Mom's number out of my phone. We talked every day and somehow it's a comfort knowing it is still there. Allow yourself what ever you need to get thru this. Bless you Andrea

mom said...

I, too, am sorry to hear of your loss. It is never easy to say goodbye! We all know it's coming, but still... Thank God for the good relationship that you had and the wonderful memories. They can help bring some peace. In the meantime, you are in my prayers as are those other people that will be missing her presence and influence. Peace be with you! You are loved!!!

CathyAnn said...

I am so sorry, and I want you to know I will keep you in my prayers. Knitting can be a real blessing now.

Darlene in Ohio said...

My mom died 3 years ago on Aug 16. Life does go on but just not as smoothly as before. Things will get better and your heart will lighted up as time passes. Blessings to you and your family. We will be here when you return. Knit away friend and try to smile.

UmmRania said...

Very sorry to hear about your loss, in our religion, at the death of a person we always say, "to God we belong and to him we return."

Take your time and dont feel like you have to rush posting, however if you want to vent how you feel, go ahead as well, take your time to heal your heart!

Thank you for everything, this blog is so nice and I for one really enjoy reading it.

Angela said...

Oh, Mary, I'm so sorry. I don't have any words to help you. We lost my husband's mother in February and it's been the most painful experience of my life. I'll be thinking about you as you grieve and as you remember your dear mother.

Cynthia K-R in Canada said...

Mary--I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a mother is a profound loss. Know that we all are thinking about you as you grieve and remember your mother. Peace to you.

sibbi yarger said...

I am a little late offering my condolences for the loss of your mum. We lost a 17 year old son about 6 years ago and losing a dear one is such a unique experience. Time does heal, but we NEVER forget.I still think of him every day.Also, we are not "over it" as soon as others expect us to be. That was the hardest things for my other kids, all their friends did not understand why they were affected so long. Everyone deals differently. take all the time you need, remember all the things about her that were special and made her unique. Write about her, talk about her to those who understand. Know you are held up by many others through your blog that you don't even know. God Bless you in this time.

Mary Keenan said...

Oh Sibbi... I am so very sorry to hear about your son! My brother was just 26 when he died over 30 years ago, and he is still always in my thoughts; I cry for him often and wonder what he might be doing now had he lived. My mother never stopped missing him and it's a comfort to know they are together again now. I think you just have to accept the pain as part of the wonderful memories we are able to keep when they go... just wish that was more of a consolation (or, in fact, ANY consolation.)